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    Default Dating someone who is an EOD Specialist. need advice.

    I have already made a post on here before about myself but I am not sure how to get of the probation thing to post on other forums. But here is a little about the guy I am seeing. I have never dated anyone in the military so this is all very new to me and I am trying to get a better understanding so that we can work through this together.

    He is in the army and is an EOD specialist. He is being deployed in September. He has been very helpful in explaining how things work. He's a very open man, and is preparing me for how hard this can be for both of us. I know it's not going to be easy and I'm prepared for that. He is doing very well with painting a picture of how this can be because this is his 4th deployment. I am willing to take this step with him as he is with me. I don't honestly know much about the army, and this is all very new to me. I am just trying to prepare myself and wanting to have support while he is gone. We have only been seeing each other for a short while, but seem to grow closer every day. We both want to give this a true chance, and I am just very nervous. I don't know what it is going to be like when he is gone. Although he has done his best to explain it to me, I wont truly know until the time comes. With him being an EOD it makes me more nervous to know how dangerous his job is. although he has been in the army for 10 years and is very experienced no situation is the same and that is what scares me the most. Has anyone else delt with similar situations? any advice would be greatly appreciated

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    Default Re: Dating someone who is an EOD Specialist. need advice.

    Leah,

    Anyone that is in the military and has a high risk job, whether it be as an infantryman, a combat corpsman/medic, EOD, etc, has a higher chance of being injured or killed. That is just a natural fact.

    Right now, people in those high risk jobs are being pulled out of Afghanistan. While some remain there, there is a good chance that his deployment will be cancelled. By 2014, all of the Army and Maines in Afghanistan will be minimized, if Obama keeps to his word.

    What rank is he? Which rank he is could be the deciding point on if he is indeed out defusing bombs, or if he is more into the command structure of being the Lord Hoo Haw of his section.

    Also, with the advancements in IED detection, his chances of coming back all in one piece, with nothing missing, returning alive is much better than this mess started up.

    I am not saying that his job is not dangerous. It is.

    However, it looks as if he does his deployment, it will be his last one, because of the drawdown planned for over there.

    You are not alone in watching your troop going over to put himself in harms way. I would suggest that you go to the forums on wives and girlfriends, as soon as possible.

    Good luck to your boyfriend, and also to you!

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    Default Re: Dating someone who is an EOD Specialist. need advice.

    Watch the movie The Hurt Locker. It's exactly like that everyday over there.

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    Default Re: Dating someone who is an EOD Specialist. need advice.

    Quote Originally Posted by DocBones View Post
    Leah,


    What rank is he? Which rank he is could be the deciding point on if he is indeed out defusing bombs, or if he is more into the command structure of being the Lord Hoo Haw of his section.

    Good luck to your boyfriend, and also to you!
    I believe a Sgt. like I said before I don't understand much about the army or any military of any nature. He told be once before a whole ago but I've been trying to focus on him being here for now and not him leaving. And thank you for your response

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    Default Re: Dating someone who is an EOD Specialist. need advice.

    Quote Originally Posted by Max Power View Post
    Watch the movie The Hurt Locker. It's exactly like that everyday over there.
    Come on Max........be nice....she is looking for advice.
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    Default Re: Dating someone who is an EOD Specialist. need advice.

    He is a staff sgt.

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    Leah,

    Hopefully by the time he goes on deployment, our involvement may be more to the training of the Afghani Army. There is no guarantee of that.

    I have suggested that you join up with a wife/girfriends forum. For some of the posters, they can be kind of cruel, some are funny, and some try to be, out here in the wide world of forums. Some try to help, but really truly, some are here to be as wretched on line as they are in their regular life. Which they think everyone else wants to hear.

    What was said about watching that movie is, or at least was true (I can't speak for how the IED finding is done now). However, to watch that could be kind of scarring for the mind.

    So, if I may, try to stick with a supportive part of the forums. To be out here in the general population is not so good for someone trying to cope with what you are trying to cope.

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    Default Re: Dating someone who is an EOD Specialist. need advice.

    Quote Originally Posted by DocBones View Post
    Leah,

    Hopefully by the time he goes on deployment, our involvement may be more to the training of the Afghani Army. There is no guarantee of that.

    I have suggested that you join up with a wife/girfriends forum. For some of the posters, they can be kind of cruel, some are funny, and some try to be, out here in the wide world of forums. Some try to help, but really truly, some are here to be as wretched on line as they are in their regular life. Which they think everyone else wants to hear.

    What was said about watching that movie is, or at least was true (I can't speak for how the IED finding is done now). However, to watch that could be kind of scarring for the mind.

    So, if I may, try to stick with a supportive part of the forums. To be out here in the general population is not so good for someone trying to cope with what you are trying to cope.
    Very well put Doc, well said.

    My 2 cents are stay positive for yourself and him... Him not worrying how you might be coping will enable him to do his job that much better. Yes you are apart and he is going through tough times but that's the nature of the beast. Just do the best you can and be honest (but not to needy) with each other. Focus on the positives!!

    Best of luck to you both!!

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