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lovinghim0628
06-21-2011, 07:43 PM
Hello everyone!
I just wanted to fill you in before i asked a few questions. My fiance and I have been together for over a year. He has recently has been stationed to Hawaii for the next 3 years where I am staying in our home state. We plan on getting married next summer but I just had a few questions to ask because Im not entirely sure how this works. I will be moving with him to Hawaii after we are married, and I also plan to finish school while we are there. I am a psychology major and I am entering my second year of college. Any other advice would be helpful. Sorry this is kind of out of order =)
1. Are we allowed to get married on an army base that isn't his own?
2. What are some recommendations on how to plan this wedding?
3. Since I was moving to Hawaii (Schofield Barracks to be exact) I was wondering what are some good places to live at and what are some good colleges?
Mostly I just had those few questions but please feel free to give any advice!

20MM
06-21-2011, 10:37 PM
1. Are we allowed to get married on an army base that isn't his own?

Yes you can get married on any military base, just contact the Chaplain at that base.

2. What are some recommendations on how to plan this wedding?

Thousands of people get married in Hawaii every year it's all online, It really boils down to how much you want to spend. Hawaii requires you to be in Hawaii for a few days in order to get the marriage license please check with them to prevent getting into a snag later. I was married there, I would recommend paying the extra to get the video... they splice in some really nice Hawaii video. The Hale Koa (Military hotel in Waikiki) does a wedding package, it's really a nice place and priced right too. Having non-military guest stay there is tricky but local hotels are near-by for them.

3. Since I was moving to Hawaii (Schofield Barracks to be exact) I was wondering what are some good places to live at and what are some good colleges?

As you most likely know, it's very expensive and small but everyone finds something... If they have military base housing that would be another option for you after you're married. Getting your belongings moved there on Uncle Sam's dime and your airline tickets requires you to be legally married prior to his PCS move. Try the U of H.

lovinghim0628
06-21-2011, 11:09 PM
Thank you so much for this! This has helped me out alot! If you have any other advice please let me know! Thanks again!

AbnCA23
06-22-2011, 07:47 AM
1. Are we allowed to get married on an army base that isn't his own?
As mentioned, contacting the Installation Chaplain Office at Schofield Barracks (or the Installation where you plan to be married) would be your first stop. Purpose being, each Installation is different on requirements to be married on a Installation. Also, some Installation may require pre-marrital counseling or pre-marrital classes or both.


2. What are some recommendations on how to plan this wedding?
See above for your first requirement. Second, also look into wedding planning in Hawaii or even in your own location. He can always return home for the wedding as it will be cheaper then flying your family there. After, you can always have a private wedding (again) on the beach in Hawaii. It will make the process of question one easier if you want to renew your vows, then a out right wedding.

3. Since I was moving to Hawaii (Schofield Barracks to be exact) I was wondering what are some good places to live at and what are some good colleges?
I can't speak for colleges in the area, but the Installation Education Center there can help. Looking up Schofield Barracks Education Center in a Internet search, should, get you the information you are looking for. Also, the housing office can assist you. If you want to start planning early, your finace can go to the Automated Housing Referral Network (www.ahrn.com), register, and start looking now.

Good luck!

lovinghim0628
06-22-2011, 12:27 PM
Thank you for the advice! I was wondering on how to get started with the housing. We plan on getting married next June but I wasn't sure if it was too early to look for housing or apply

20MM
06-22-2011, 02:23 PM
There would be no need to look for housing prior to:

~ Being married
~ On orders to Hawaii

Unless you're just curious, in your scenario it may make more sense to get married in your home state first and have your honeymoon in Hawaii. The service member will receive housing and COLA which will cover the expense of housing well 75% of it anyway. In order for all that to happen though you have to married first.

lovinghim0628
06-22-2011, 07:46 PM
Ok thank you. I just wanted to make sure of how to do the houseing and when to request it. We are planning on getting married here first. Just so family and friends could see

MACHINE666
06-22-2011, 08:23 PM
Leave the toilet seat up and you'll be fine.

:D :D :D :D :D

20MM
06-22-2011, 09:59 PM
After you are married and included on the orders (Make sure you get a military ID card and on DEERS too). When you get to Hawaii you check in at the, lodging office with a copy of your (his) orders. If they have a Temporary lodging facility (TLF) room available they will give it to you, if not you will get a statement of non-availability or something similar, then you go to a local hotel and get reimbursed for your stay up to the authorized amount. Just ask them at lodging how much that amount is. For Hawaii it's really high. When your husband in-processes through housing all of the details on your residence will be determined and it's also based on rank too.

Because you are PCS'ing to Hawaii you can reserve the room several months in advance too if you want to stay on post instead of maybe having to get a hotel when you show up. (personally I would just show up and hope they didn't have any rooms)

You can research the post online and get an idea of the housing offered as well.

lovinghim0628
06-22-2011, 10:07 PM
that works too lol

lovinghim0628
06-22-2011, 10:09 PM
and thank you for the info 20MM! That really helped alot

Measure Man
06-22-2011, 10:26 PM
After you are married and included on the orders (Make sure you get a military ID card and on DEERS too). When you get to Hawaii you check in at the, lodging office with a copy of your (his) orders. If they have a Temporary lodging facility (TLF) room available they will give it to you, if not you will get a statement of non-availability or something similar, then you go to a local hotel and get reimbursed for your stay up to the authorized amount. Just ask them at lodging how much that amount is. For Hawaii it's really high. When your husband in-processes through housing all of the details on your residence will be determined and it's also based on rank too.

Because you are PCS'ing to Hawaii you can reserve the room several months in advance too if you want to stay on post instead of maybe having to get a hotel when you show up. (personally I would just show up and hope they didn't have any rooms)

You can research the post online and get an idea of the housing offered as well.

If he is already in Hawaii...then she isn't on his original PCS orders. Assuming this is the case, she isn't "PCS'd to Hawaii", she has to get their on her own dime. I'm nearly positive she doesn't get TLF reimbursed or any travel expenses. She has to be on his original PCS orders to get travel expenses.

Loving, here's what will happen. You are getting married in your home town. As soon as that is done, your husband will do as noted above, enroll you in DEERS and get your ID card.

He'll then have to apply for Command Sponsorship in Hawaii. That is normally pretty routine, the only thing that could hold it up is if you have some kind of medical condition that will need special services...i.e. Asthma, Mental Health issues, Hard of hearing, etc.

Once he gets Command Sponsorship approved, he can apply for base housing...if there is a long wait list, he can find a rental off-base at the with-dependent rate.

Where does he live now? If he is in his own apartment off-base, obviously, you can just buy a ticket and move in with him. If he is living in barracks for something, then you're gonna need a place to stay and he may not get released from the barracks until command sponsorship is approved.

lovinghim0628
06-24-2011, 02:39 AM
Thank you for that. Ill tell him about that because I kind of figured I wouldn't be able to go over there for free

revalea35
07-10-2013, 11:17 AM
Ok thank you